Talking To Your Parents About Home Care

When it comes to our parents, we all want the same thing – to provide them with the best possible help and support when they can no longer live alone. Sometimes, raising the subject of Care with previously independent family members can be tricky. We’ve put together a few tips here to make the process that little bit easier for everyone involved.

1. Confront your own concerns:
Putting the welfare of a loved one into someone else’s hands, isn’t always easy. The best thing about Home Care is that your parent can receive great care in the comfort and familiarity of their home surroundings. This means that your parent can stay close to their friends, family and community whilst still getting all the help that they need. That being said, it can be unnerving inviting a new person into your family life. Always speak to those providing the care services and they will be able to answer any questions and calm your concerns. Home care can be a great way to form a new kind of independence – supporting your parent to continue their life as normal with dignity and respect.

2. Do your research:
Make sure that you know what options are available to you. You can get advice from your parent’s current healthcare professionals – GP, Nurse, Occupational therapist etc. who can also put you in touch with other organisations that provide home assessments. This is where a specialist will visit your parent’s home to recommend any equipment or adaptations that may be helpful. There are also often community schemes such as Call Button Services that can supplement a care plan.

3. Listen to your parents and support their wishes:
It can be difficult to accept help when you’ve always valued your independence. Have a conversation about what is most important to your parent and what you both feel that they need. Discuss everything as open and honestly as you can and reassure them that everyone just wants them to be happy and comfortable. It’s important to make compromises where you can and agree to keep plans flexible so that the support can grow and change with your parent’s needs.

4. Talking about the tough stuff:
There are some difficult topics to cover through this process but issues such as finances and legal matters are best tackled head on. Wills and Power of Attorney are arrangements best made early, avoiding these cringey conversations can leave you in some tight spots further down the line. It’s always best to make sure everything is in order as promptly as possible – this keeps the stress off of everyone’s shoulders.

5. Look after yourself:
Remember to take care of yourself too! With changes happening and lots of tasks to keep you busy it can be easy to forget that your health is also a priority. You will be a much better support to your loved one if you are feeling rested yourself. Make sure to keep up your usual healthy habits and never feel guilty about taking a bit of time for yourself.

We understand that talking to your parents about home care isn’t easy. At Guardian Angels, we aim to make the transition as easy and stress-free as possible. We’ll help you ask all those important questions and support you, as well as your family member. Once you’ve had those difficult conversations and decide to go ahead, one of our carers will quickly become part of the normal routine, a companion and a helper. To ask us about our services give us a call on 01784 611611 or contact us via email.